At the beginning of this year my husbands 82 yrs. old father asked us to move into their home to help take care of my 82 yrs. old MIL. My MIL has severe dementia. We agreed to move in and help with a stipulation. We do not have children of our own but I am very close to my nieces; when they start having children of their own we as well as my FIL will move to my home town to enjoy our grandchildren and my large extended family. When MIL is in a nursing home she can transfer to a nursing home in my home town.
Of course he agreed. Now he's denying that we ever had that conversation he would never agree to move and my MIL could transfer nursing homes. He is telling me that it will be many, many, many years before we can relocate to be close to my family.
My MIL & FIL both come from small families and have one other child a 50 yrs. old son who is developmentally disabled and has lived in a group home for 30 yrs. old.
When my FIL retired at 60 yrs. old they moved to Florida had a very active social life saw their DD son when they came North each summer and visited their elderly parent's in the nursing home twice a year.
I am upset and resentful about the situation. It is not going to be easy taking care of my husbands elderly parents it will put a huge strain on our marriage yet we agreed because there is no one else to help. I resent my FIL for wanting to control my ability to move near my family. No one put constraints on them when they retired to Florida.