My 6 year old daughter and I moved in with my grandmother after the passing of my grandfather. I am about to get married; therefore becoming a wife as well as already being a mother. My grandmother does not clean nor decorate like I used to in my own place. Every time I start cleaning something she either watches me like a hawk or says you don't have to do that. I am beginning to feel depressed due to not being able to be the proper mother or wife to be. I can't clean my way, I can't decorate my way, and after 3 years my decorations and belongings are still in boxes. I feel obligated to care for my grandmother. My mother (only child) and grandfather have both passed, and I am all she has. Yet I feel I am losing my sense of self by not doing the things I used to do. My grandmother is also somewhat of a hoarder, and has issues when I get rid of things from time to time. She feels compelled to hang onto things just because my grandfather bought them (Ex. She had a freezer that went bad. The inside of it was starting to melt in some places. I got rid of it and replaced it with a new one. She actually got upset and started stomping through the house like a child on a temper tantrum. I couldn't believe it.) I am looking for advice on how to go about things. Sadly, I have even thought about moving out so that I can be myself again.