My husband has taken a job in another town and right now I am hanging behind to tie up loose ends before I move and go with him. My mom is currently living in a senior apt complex and I take care of all of her groceries, meds, Dr. visits etc. She has alzheimer's.
When I move out of town I cannot/won't leave her behind and I plan on buying a home that has enough room for her too and moving her with us. This means buying a more expensive home than I would have to buy without her but also means that all the bills will be in our names and this will increase our monthly outlay by quite a bit.
My question is two fold. First, can part of my mom's money be used towards down payment on a house and/or can part of her money be used to pay utility bills, cable etc?
This seems only fair to me because without me she would be in a hugely expensive assisted living facility but I understand the goverment is not usually reasonable. LOL I don't want to saddle my husband with mom's total upkeep when she is able to help support herself but I also don't want to get shafted for doing something that I will get persecuted for later.