I am losing sleep over this. (I'm also losing sleep over Mom awakening me twice a night at least.) Things are just moving slowly downhill, and I'm being pressured majorly by my husband to FREE US, before we get too old and worn out to enjoy our own "senior years." I can't stand to even think about moving my Mom out of the home. She isn't much of a bother really, except the 24/7 aspect of this caregiving process. We just can't get away. She's always there. Always inserting herself into our discussions. Not in an overly aggressive way, but just wanting to get in on the conversation, but many times clueless about what it is we're even talking about. I could go on with thousands of things....things you all know about. I feel I'm being dragged closer and closer to the edge of the cliff. The cliff where I take my Mom and shove her somewhere for someone else to take over her care. She wouldn't even be allowed to take her kitty, that she loves so dearly. I can't even imagine doing this, but I'm getting between a rock and hard place. Believe me. It's not a pretty place to be in. I find myself awake at night wondering what the facilities are like. Do they have clueless dazed residents wandering around at all hours talking to the chairs, etc? How do they keep the ppl in their places/rooms at night? Do they drug them? Do they scream and yell to get out? OMG, I hate this prospect. I'm really in a bad place in my head. Has anyone else gone through this horrible struggle? What did you do? Any input would be much appreciated. Thanks.