Mother with Alzheimer's disease has lived with me for last 7 months because her husband was unable to handle her behaviors, became abusive. Would like to begin the move to Memory Care for her, but don't know where to start. She doesn't have enough money to even pay for 1 year of care. Her husband refuses to contribute saying, "I can't afford to pay for her care." My 2 brothers and I are meeting with the Elder Care Lawyer to determine how to proceed. Any insights you could share would be so appreciated! What questions do we ask the lawyer? How can we make her husband participate in paying for her care? She won't be found eligible for Medicaid, as she remains married and therefore his financial information would have to be added to the application. I feel stuck between a rock and a hard place. Can you suggest ideas to assist me in moving forward?