My Dad is 75, still physically active, but getting forgetful and complains of dizziness. He is lucid most of the time but has a drinking problem My mother died last year. Dad is living alone in the woods, 7 miles from the nearest small town. He only gets $880/mo SS, and refuses to apply for food stamps or other assistance. The only asset is the residence he's living in, and it's going downhill from lack of maintenance. I live 2500 miles away, and have a busy career/family life. Yet, we want to do the right thing, and can spare money to provide a trailer or other separate living quarters at our house. A complicating factor is that he has 2 dogs he won't part with, and my husband is adamant that he would allow only 1 more dog in addition to our own dog.
The other option is to get him a smaller place in town in the area he currently is in--but there is no money to do that until we sell his present house. And we can't sell that property unless he's out of there. There is no way he would qualify for AL through Medicaid--he's definitely still legally competent and not disabled. Just a stubborn cuss who still wants to live independently, but is lonely and declining. And broke. He can never make it through the month on SS, and is always trying to hit me up for an extra 100 or 200 to get him food or pay utility bills. Thoughts or advice?