Mom is 84, fell 3 years ago, broke her hip, never healed well. Never finished her therapy. Confined mostly to wheelchair. Can walk no more than 20' hanging onto walker, dragging oxygen behind her. Has to stop to breathe due to severe COPD. Cannot put her blouse on without stopping 3 times to breathe.
3 weeks ago she fell again and broke her pelvis and humerus (arm). Cannot operate due to extreme COPD. Was in tremendous pain. Put on morphine and dilautin which helped. She goes in and out between being lucid and "loopy".
She was put in sub-acute rehab after her fall and most time refuses to do it; says she cannot do so, doesn't want to bother and just wants to put a cover over her head and go to sleep forever. Asked if she can just die and stop the pain.
We have a staff meeting this week and think we are going to be told that mom cannot have more time in rehab since she isn't making "gains". The choices must be either nursing home long term wing or hospice wing.
I feel like hospice is a death sentence to her, but also think long term nursing care wing may not be good choice either. She still will have to do some therapy which she hates and the best that could happen is that she would be able to be in a wheelchair there. Wouldn't have the strength to push herself due to COPD. She would not mix with the residents and would not want to attend bingo and other activities. She cannot come home due to layout of bathroom and her tiny apartment and there is no one to care for her there.
Would appreciate your input on this. Thanks so much.