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I am dealing with some of the same issues with my husband whose heatlh is deteriorating. He is in severe pain, on oxygen; uses a walker and continues to smoke and drink. I have been going to Al Anon and have found it helpful in helping me to understand the situation and how to set limits to take care of myself and love and accept my husband.
It sounds like your Mom is an alcoholic/pill popper, and if this is the case and has been going on for awhile, you can't simply "take the stuff away" from her without her going into serious withdrawal. It's rather a complex situation. I've dealt with both alcoholics and pill addicts. If they want to do it, and are not legally declared mentally incompetent, your hands are pretty much tied. It's extremely difficult to see a loved one commit slow suicide like that, but it is tricky to get them off the stuff. She may have to detox in a supervised facility first. If she's unwilling, you may have to get the courts involved to find her mentally incompetent so that someone else can make the decisions for her welfare.
Best of luck to you, Pricels. I can identify with what you're going through. :(
To me it sounds like a strong case of depression-along with other (possibly) health issues involved. I think it is a good idea to have your Mom evaluated..and ASAP....and take matters from there.
Please let us know how you make out-and good luck!
Generally, if she is deemed competent, you cannot force her into assisted living if she does not want to go. Have you considered in-home caregivers to give you respite? Also, when is the last time your Mom was evaluated and given a physical?