my aunt is 95 and she is currently in an assited living facility....she has done well up until a few months ago with little help from staff...all that she will allow that is....she gets medication reminders and two meal a day delivered but will not accept shower assistance etc....the staff at her current AL facility has told me that she can no longer reside there because of her dementia as she disturbes other residents and makes phone calls all night to staff and to us also....she imagines people are breaking in and has phoned the police twice.....she imagines staff are making sexual advances to her....I tried removing her phone and then she knocks on residents doors and if they are unlocked goes in and looks for a phone......I currently have hired aides to attend to her in the evening hours until her meds kick in and she goes to bed.......she sleeps till 2 and then it starts all over again.......I have health DPOA and a Dr. has confirmed she has advanced dementia....here is the problem....i told her she has to move into a nursing home to get the care she needs....she refuses to accept she needs any more care than she receives now, and doesn't understand what the problem is...how can I convince her that a NH with dementia care is the best place for her to go? All the paperwork is done and chest xray for admittance....once a bed opens up I will have to move her within the next two weeks.....how on earth to I do this? I told her she must move to a nursing home where she will get the care she needs and it is very close to me, right around the block...she says that is rediculous, she doesn not feel she needs more care and she isn't getting and she is good where she is.......how do i handle this....do I just drive her there and drop her off? what if she refuses to get out of the car? What if she gets in the NH and says she isn't staying? NH says they can't force her to stay!! is that right? I am so confused, guilt ridden and sad....HELP!!!!!!!!