He has been the caretaker in Florida.
They have been married for 14 years.
He has always done her Medicaid for her since she is disabled.
He doesn't want to pay the bill so he has decided to not do anything.
I live across the state, not nearby.
Her doctors are by them.
He has signed everything needed for her.
He has Power of Attorney.
I have never been involved in her care or aware of their finances.
Is he liable?
Did the POA document assign a successor?
I was just playing the devil's advocate, but you certainly know more about your stepfather's motivations than I do. Someone needs to be an advocate for your mother if she is no longer able; should be your stepfather, but it could be you, the NH (perhaps), or the State of Florida. As others have suggested, I would probably start by talking to the NH and contacting APS in Florida.
https://www.napsa-now.org/get-help/help-in-your-area/florida/
You don't have to report anything to APS just yet, but at least ask them these questions. If you wish to report suspected neglect, you can do so online at https://reportabuse.dcf.state.fl.us/Adult/AdultForm.aspx. I'm not certain about this, but I think the State of Florida requires anyone (not just nurses, doctors, etc.) who suspects neglect to report it.
This is why we should talk to whomever we intend to be our POAs to ensure that they are willing and we should have a 2nd one named.
I just looked it up. I didn't know there was such a service. Thank you.
In any case, you admit in your OP that you have never been involved, so perhaps your mom's husband knows what he is doing, and it is what's best for both him and your mom. Or... perhaps not. You need to talk to him to find out.
I would not call the NH. Then they have ur number and they will hound you. As a child, you r not responsible for her care. (To members, please no filial law junk)
Do you think there is some cognitive impairment here. His has Medicaid paying her way and he thinks the children should be paying because he didn't want to fill out Medicaid papers?
The NH cannot legally kick Mom out. She has to be released to a safe place. I think the home maybe able to fill out Medicaid papers for her. There have to be other residents with no family they do this for. Just tell him no. If he gives out ur info to the NH, just tell them u have not lived with Mom since u were 12 and have no legal authority to help her. If he abandons her the state will step in as her guardian.
there is no harm in the OP calling the nursing home to get the ball rolling on the Medicaid application. She doesn’t have to give them her phone number and if she is worried they will see it on the caller ID and save it, well did you know that you can easily block your number so that the person you are calling doesn’t see the number? If she’s truly concerned she should try to help her mother.
and the OP hasn’t asked about sending money nor did anyone suggest it so I don’t understand why you and joy are responding as if someone did?