I am an only child. My husband and I are the only help my mother has for a 3-story house WITH a yard. She wants to "die in this house, just like my father" but at age 89 1/2 it is getting to be too much for ALL of us. She's lived in this house for 50+ years. How do I approach this delicate subject with her. She is very demanding and this we should just 'jump' when there is a problem with the house. HELP!