My mother has just been diagnosed with Parkinsons and accompanying dementia. She has lived with a male companion for the last 9 years. He is very controlling, and possibly verbally abusive. He wrote to me and told me I should move my mother to where I live, and he would remain in her house until it is sold. He requested also a "fee" for separating, and linked this to the improvements on the house that he has made. Luckily they live in a state where there is no common law marriage! He has no income, and has been living off of my mother. Now he has to care for her too, and he doesn't really want to. She hadn't seen a doctor about her dementia until I intervened. I live very far away, and don't quite know what to do. I have POA and the Health POA. My mother doesn't fully trust this man, as she did not put him on her HIPPA nor on the Health POA. With the exception of one small bank account, she also does not let him know about her finances. I worry though that with her dementia he will try to request funds from her, as he has done from me. My mother does not want him to leave, and made this very clear, and he too said he will not leave unless my mother tells him to. What can I do to remove him from the picture, and take care of my mother the way she should be cared for?