My mother has PAD. She has not been back to see a doctor since they recommended she have surgery. She seemed okay for some time, she could still get around and take care of herself well.
But after her husband my stepfather passed away quite suddenly at their home one day her health situation has RAPIDLY changed for the worse.
At this point - not only is she unable to do more than swing her legs off the sidecof the bed or stand up from a chair,
But she has an awful looking sore on her ankle that she tried to hide from me for some time ibsisting her skin was just dry, it was just a scratch - so i finally got a look at her feet withoutthe slippers on and they look very very worrisome!
In the more severe cases of PAD amputations are not unusual!
She is afraid of surgery to help the circulation to her legs but how much more would it terrify her to have to take parts off her in order to stay alive!?
It would humiliate her to have an ambulance called to her home, but she needs to go to the doctor -
Another thing that adds to her resisting a doctor i am sure is something that has caused her to be embarrassed and self conscious for some time - incontinence, which she is rather badly afflicted with i must admit
And she has expressed to me how she has not been able to properly bathe or shower for a long time- takes bird baths because she is afraid that she will fall - and i know that this also adds to her anxiety over potential embarrassment
- i should mention that she has called me on at least three occassions because she has fallen out of her bed or from her chair at night -
My sister and i try to take care of all her needs outside the home - any shoppibg or errands
We check her mail and take out her trash
Housework has now become part of the duties my sister and i have taken on for our mother (again the change in her health has been swift - she was not long ago able to keep up on things in her small clean and orderly single story home - but presently, she can barely get to a standing position from a chair or bed.
Everyday we plan on going to a doctor and agree upon this plan and everyday she finds a reason why we wont.
But like i said her feet are very worrisome! Amputations are not uncommon among sufferers of PAD - she insists its nothing like that - its rolands syndrom (or something like that) or its gout if not just a scratch or dry skin.
I dont want to take away her dignity or insult her or cause her embarrasment or anything of the sort -
But im worried her condition COULD BE life threatening though maybe not life or death right now -
I know she would feel horribly betrayed by me in addition ... And she is my mother who was a damn fine one to me. My childhood was idyllic - as a mother - im not one iota the mother she was to me - she cared for me very well - iys hard for me to think of betraying her trust -
But im thinking i should call an ambulance. She wont go but she is NOT well and getting worse and refuses treatment.
I dont know what to do.
Apologies for the many typos mistakes unusual punctuation and bad grammar - im typing this from my not so smart phone.
Thanks in advance for any insights and withholding judgements.