What do I do if my my Mother won't accept outside help?

Is it your mother or grandmother you are caring for? How did this situation come about?

Grandaugher, we need more information such as how old is your Mom and what are her physical limitations? Does she have any memory problems? Does she live in a single family home, townhome, apartment, senior housing? When it comes to outside help, does she not even want you to help her out, or only you to do the caregiving?

Bring the help in if you can, there's more than one way to do things, flexibility is the key, resourcefulness is the best medicine, contact your local council, your doctor, the aged care help line etc and see what they can do, don't give up try patience and tolerance, I believe there is a way around everything, try your local library the Internet anything as long as it works, there may be community events etc good luck you can do this,

I agree that more information would be helpful so that people can give you more detailed answers.

Not knowing anything about your situation I would say that when elderly people dig their heels in and refuse help it needs to be explained to them that if they want the privilege of staying in their own home sacrifices are going to have to be made. One of those sacrifices is accepting help in the home.

Bring the help in if you can, there's more than one way to do things, flexibility is the key, resourcefulness is the best medicine, contact your local council, your doctor, the aged care help line etc and see what they can do, don't give up try patience and tolerance, I believe there is a way around everything, try your local library the Internet anything as long as it works, there may be community events etc good luck you can do this,

In this post you state that you're the sole caregiver for your grandmother. Are you caring for your mother also, or only your grandmother?

It helps for posters to have more information on your and your parent, grandparent's situation.

https://www.agingcare.com/questions/Im-an-only-caretaker-of-my-Grandmother-have-no-help-from-her-children-They-all-live-out-of-state-Wil-189086.htm

Here's more info: I'm only trying to help my Grandma, not my Mom- sorry. She lives in her house & is 93. She is no longer driving & physically she's frail & uses a walker. She takes medication for high BP, Thyroid, & Atrial Fibrillation. Everyone in our family has talked & told her she needs help, but she just keeps refusing. Thanks for the input so far.