Criticiazes daughters but not bossy son or even in-home. Sibs take turns helping Mom take care of dad and their home. Daughters often get criticsm from Mom about everything from how someone cut the lettuce leaves up or doesn't fold the towels right or buys things for the house or dad etc. Favorite son has also helped out but buys a new microwve when he thinks they need it or has tantrums when sisters do something he doesn't like, such as doing grocery shopping when he had wanted to do it. Mom says he helps her a lot and doens't think anything of his tantrums etc. "We're all different" she says. Recently started supplementing care 3 mornings a week with home aide service to help Dad shower, get dressed and fed, meds etc. Had to convince Mom to have this. Brother does not like this. Mom says " I can do it" but it really is too exhausting for her physically and emotionally. Anyway, One of the caregivers is quite bossy, much like Mom and brother. "You should use dryer sheets and goes on and on why even when Mom days I don't use those.Or I must have paper towels to dry my hands because I can't trust how towels are washed in the homes. This week Mom told me the woman even her while she was watching the Catholic Mass on TV. Mom thought she needed help with Dad or something.important. Then she began talking to my Mom about her religion and tried to give her religious materials to read. Mom said I am not interested and went back to LR. Then the woman started talking to my Dad so Mom turned up the TV loud and later told my dad not to listen to her. Mom told me about this but said she is a hard worker and I want to keep her. So she didn't want to call the agency about it. She said she may talk to the woman when she comes next week.woman when she comes next week. I am shocked first of all that this caregiver is so bold as to attempt to evangelize to people for whom she is working. And I can't get over how MOm picks at every little thing we daughters do for her and dad but broyher and this caregiver are OK when they speak out of turn or trey to tell her what to do. Mom complains that one sister tries to take over(?). I go home exhausted trying to be kind to Mom even when mean to me or critical of little things. But other people who I see as displaying bad behavior, she says it's OK and even likes that they are that way. Any thoughts?