My father, 87, died in December after suffering from a brain stem stroke 6 months before. He was left paralyzed from the nose down. He did not have a living will. This left my Mother, 86, at home alone with her dog. She has refused to leave home to come with me. She wants to stay in her house. I live about 45 minutes away from her. I am 65 and work full time about 50-55 hrs a week in a stressful job. I get to her 2-3 times a week. I make sure her bills are paid, food in house, that she has heat, etc. She has never liked drs. Her legs are swelling and I finally got her to the dr two weeks ago. He wanted to put her in the hospital. She refused. So he gave her medication to try to help. Yesterday when I was there she was in pain. I have argued and argued with her to let me take her to the hospital. She won't leave her home. I can't sleep, worrying about her. I am afraid of losing my job (about 1-2 yrs away from retirement) I can't stand to see her suffer like I watched my Father. She won't let anyone in her house. so visiting nurses are out. My husband of 25 years has only been in the house twice. I am at my wit's end. I have a brother that lives about 5 miles from her but after my father died he hasn't contacted us. I called him last night for help and he hung up on me. She said she is only living to take care of her dog. Any suggestions will be appreciated.