I have been helping her with all of the arrangements as well as her finances, cleaning her house, making food for her, and calling all of the places that need to know about his death. My mother is 74 years old and is able to cook, clean, and shop for herself. She now expects me to come over for hours every day and will not leave her home unless I take her to places such as the grocery, etc. She is very dominearing and demanding while making me feel very guilty if I do not go over for hours every day. I have an autistic son, a daughter in college, and a husband yet all of my time has been spent at her house with her telling me why she is miserable, lonely, and depressed. My daughter and son have been going with me but they will be back in school soon. When I tell her I need to go home and cook dinner she says I must not like to be with her in a very negative way. She wants to live with us but my home is small. She also wants us to buy a home next door to eachother. My mother has always been controlling and very hard to deal with as she likes everying her way yet she does love us and cares for my family and even pays for my daughter to go to college. I do not know what to do since I do not want to hurt her feelings or make her feel isolated but I need to have my own life. How do I tell her I do not want to go over for hours every day or that she can drive herself to the store?.