She isn't at all. Couch smells, wont accept help with showering. I was going to tell her she either comes "clean" and tell me the truth or I will call her social worker. I hate to do that though, any suggestions???
Call her social worker. Get her proper help. Why on earth would you think it better for her if you engage in a battle of wills and force her to admit to you something that she is ashamed of?