Ok....my 96 year old mother has lived with us for about three years. Her bedroom is on the same side of the house as our two adult daughters. This is no joke. They have heard or seen her masturbate a couple times. I am at a total lost as to how to handle. She moans loud enough to hear outside her door. Not often but often enough. As their mother they look to me to...I don't know what to do. They think she needs a psychiatrist or medication. Told them she is just horny not sick....which was mortifying to them. It is normal right, even at 96? She uses a walker to get around but otherwise alert and active.
Suggestions?
Just leave her be and be thankful she doesn’t have any...umm... power tools.
Who knows - maybe it’s the secret to her healthy mind and body at 96?
Use it or loss it. Isn’t that what they say?
Your daughters are adults and need to relax.
And, if they give you the fish eye, simply explain to them that you are not responsible for her behavior, even without the dementia.
Tell them to close their doors.
I think your comment "she's just horny, not sick" is absolutely priceless!
I'd tell your grown daughters to mind their own business or put in earplugs when they hear something they dislike coming from her room.
My second concern, sorry, is that they can be mistaking pain and moans for masturbation. I am 78. I have a bad back, and when is is in trouble, my turning in bed half asleep may sound a bit like I once sounded for a happier reason.
If Mom has the urge and the wherewithall to still care about pleasure at her age I would be the first to say more power to her. I hope the girls don't think that masturbation is something THEY should be medicated for.
I think it is time for a sit down heart to heart with them about normal female sexual behavior.
IF what they thing is happening is indeed what IS happening (and I am afraid I am still not clear that is the case), then the only thing that is "different" is that there is not so much inhibition or even knowledge for Mom about how much noise she is making.
Get out the Our Bodies Ourselves (is that old book still about) and go through the entire birds to the bees of it all. My daughters loved that time, and laugh about it still.