My mother was recently in the ER because we thought that she had pneumonia. It turns out she didn't. Her vital signs and lung x-ray were good. She has quickly deteriorated in the past two weeks from feeding herself and walking to the bathroom to being bedridden and having to be spoon fed. She doesn't talk. What I find so startling is that she stares and does not look at me. I ask her a question and she does not respond. She is now in hospice care. She didn't respond to the nurses either when they asked her a question. Perhaps she doesn't hear or see us. Watching my mother die a slow death is agonizing.
My mother and I had a good relationship when she was well, but when she got sick I felt she hated me. It is especially painful when she does not look at me or say a word.