My 77 year-old father has multiple health concerns and has just recently became helpless - cannot walk, turn over in bed, or feed himself. My mother is caring for him at home and says all their children work so she doesn't want to ask them to help because they are unable to take time off from work. She is recently recovering from eye surgery and is insisting that she needs help but wants help from public services/places, not family. What should we do? Just make a schedule with the 5 kids and tell our mother what days we will be there?