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Hello, my mother passed away middle of this month. I am doing good but what I’m having a problem with is this feeling of relief (maybe not the best word to describe it) or content sort of thing, have my life back. This makes me feel bad as she was never a burden to me and she lived a great life because of me but just feeling guilty feeling content or relief etc.

after my dad died (he had hospice)  - the hospice office kept calling me - seemed to call me every few weeks for about 4 months? idk. But they wanted to offer my mom grief counseling. Well my mom did really well after he passed, I think it was because of her dementia? but she never acted sad. she would speak of him and say what a great guy he was and how she was lucky. but she never seemed sad. and I wasn't sad either. I was glad it was over. I miss my dad, but I do not miss watching a person slowly die and seemingly suffer. and now I have to repeat this disease my mom. allow yourself to be ok with getting your life back. I do feel at times my mom and dad has been a heavy burden to carry. and when its all over ill know I did the best I could. and I will feel relief deserved.
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Reply to wally003
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I see no problem in feeling this way. Caregiving takes a lot of energy and worry.
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Reply to JoAnn29
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Sounds like a different version of survivor guilt. If this does not pass with time, I suggest finding someone you can talk about this with. Take care of yourself and be nice to yourself.
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There are many reasons to feel relief. One is relief that your mother (and mine) reached the end of a difficult time and that she has found peace. One is for a still space for yourself and other family members after what is often a hectic and distressing time. My own journey of grieving had many aspects and went on for a very long time. Don’t feel guilt when you have nothing to be guilty about. Hang in there.
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I am sorry to read about your mother.
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