My Mother is not thriving there and wants out of memory care nursing home. Any advice?

Guardianship123, from your postings it seems you have already made up your mind. What are you asking of us?

Nothing anymore thank you all for the input it was helpful to hear suggestions... Our mind is not made up one way or the other because we know there is a lot to consider, but we have now talked with an attorney and have got the feedback that I needed so I really didn't need anymore advice but again thanks everyone

Please do keep in touch and let us know how she and you are getting on. Hope it goes smoothly whatever you decide to do.

Yes, Medicare goes anywhere but not always the suppliment. Is your Mom telling you she wants out? Dementia patients always want to go home. My Mom thinks being here with me is temporary. It will be a year next month. My Aunt was in an AL facility and was always saying she was "gettin out". Their minds are not in the present they r in the past. When my Aunt says home she meant where she grew up. I think you should just let things stay as they are. Like its been said, moving them is not a good thing. Ask your sister if there is anything you can do to help with Mom. Visit as much as you can. But don't take everything your Mom says to heart. I have only been taking care of my Mom in my home for a year and we cannot do anything without planning it out first. Who can we get to sit with her. Lost my aide now have to get another. Really, if she isn't happy in a facility that she has freedom to walk around and activities, she won't be happy in a house all day.

I wouldn't count on making your mother happy as an achievable goal. I got my mom out of memory care and into AL, with lots of add-ons, but she would never be happy. One good thing I did to help me was to visit memory care for a week, there all day including meals. I had a care meeting that week with nursing, social worker, and director. A elderly person can hide a lot from you unless you are observing all day. I have a friend whose MIL just sits and smiles all day long and says nothing, just cooperates. Even that has been really hard on her. Its a huge thing to ask of your wife.

Yes. Remove from the facility. You are not equipped or knowledgable enough to manage the care, as loving as your intentions are.
You need a private adult care home that is close to you. These are family homes with CNAs and care providers and usually 5 or fewer residents. They provide assistance with ADLs and loving care. They are less expensive and so much better in every way than facilities. They go by many names: resident home, care homes, senior homes, private adult care homes. Your state dept of aging may have some listings as well as city or county senior offices or social work offices. Good luck!

Ginnyhoo who are you to judge people when you have no idea our background or knowledge......just FYI my husband and I are both in the medical field......and if you were knowledgeable enough to read the question you didn't answer it at all but thank you. For advice that I didn't need........

Guardianship, Ginnyhoo is just a drive-by poster. Pay no mind.