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Mother (77) is not eating, lost weight, crying, lack of mobility, sleeping, nauseous?

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My mother in the last 6 months has lost more than 30 lbs. Her mobility has decreased significantly, and in the last 10 days, can not move around by herself, she shuffles when walking. She cries a lot. Sleeps all night, and most of the day. Recently has nausea a good part of the day and is barely eating. She has some difficulty swallowing and gags when drinking. My dad is her primary caregiver and is at his wits end what to do with/for her.

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Andreasaffer, thank you for the update, and I hope your mother and father hear more helpful news very soon.

On a general point - though potentially relevant here - The Daily Telegraph carried a feature yesterday highlighting the important point that coronary failure *in women* is often overlooked because females can present with very different symptoms from normal - including nausea and indigestion, vomiting, shortness of breath, and back or jaw pain. Something to rule out, I hope, rather than one more thing to worry about.
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Andreaffer,
If all physical reasons for her symptoms have been ruled out, I'd ask her doctor for a psych consult. Depression can cause a number of physical symptoms, such as headache, backache, nausea, trouble swallowing, dizziness, sleep disorder, feeling sick, crying, etc. My mom went through this and meds for depression and anxiety made a tremendous difference.
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08/29/16....andreasaffer, some times as we get older we cannot eat the same foods we use to enjoy. I know my Dad became lactose intolerant so I had to buy him Lactaid brand milk and ice cream, otherwise it would do a major tap dance on his tummy and he started to lose weight.

My Dad also experimented with gluten-free products and that helped him, too. That could make someone feel weak as the proper nutrients aren't being taken into the body correctly. Also can cause weight loss and painful stomach.

Another possibility is acid relux which can make one feel nausea. I found Tums worked for me.
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Swallowing should be evaluated by a Speech Language Pathologist. the etiology doesn't matter. good therapy can help.
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Thank you for all your responses. I must apologize I didn't give all the info, when I put this out initially I was in a hurry to try and get some answers and didn't give the complete background. My dad is doing a superb job with her, feeding her and looking after her. They have seen multiple doctors and had almost every imaginable scan, blood draw etc etc. The doctors have ruled out ALS, MS for the most part, I asked for them to check thyroid, they say no cancer. I was hoping that someone out there had had similar symptoms with no diagnosable problem. I was with them just 10 days ago, and it seems has deteriorated more since I was there. They are off to doctor again and I suggested that they again ask about thyroid, and they are doing tests and scans and checking GI. I really do apprceciate your suggestions and thoughts.
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This is not diagnosable via these posts - she needs a good geriatric eval ASAP, Thyroid, Parkinson's, GI disorders, depression or combinations of the above etc. are all possible and if you don't go to ER because this is so chronic, get her in somehwere this upcoming week.

But - here's another question - why is Dad "at wit's end'? She needs a medical evaluation, does he think he is supposed to solve all those problems himself without one, or that she is just willfully misbehaving? I guess I'm a little worried why he would have let it go on 6 months without medical attention. It might be that it is time for you to take on a more active role, that mom and dad need help making good decisions. It is a scary shift in responsibiilty for you, but that's part of the ball game here on AgingCare. Sorry this is happening and hope there are answers and things that can be done.
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I hope you're at the ER right now, but if you're not, it's where you should be. The gagging, difficulty swallowing could be dysphagia, or something else. If she's not getting nutrients or fluids, she may have electrolyte imbalances. They lead to other problems.

I feel badly for your mother; I'm guessing the hospital will keep her for multiple workups to find the source of her discomfort and problems.
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08/28/16.... andreasaffer, good heavens your poor Mom, and she is still very young, only a few years older than I am. Call 911 and have her taken to the ER right now.

I can't imagine what your Mom has been going through the past six months. Wasn't anyone paying any attention? No wonder she is crying.
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As Veronica stated, there are so many possibilities of what could be causing her terrible symptoms! Gastrointestinal, stomach, esophageal come to mind. It could be some3so simple such as strictures in he esophagus, easily treated, to a Hiatal hernia, to of course, Cancer, but still, there are so many viable solutions and treatment, once she is properly diagnosed. Definitely get her to the ER, right away! Don't take no for an answer, request that she have ALL tge appropriate testing done in hospital if possible! She's still very young, and can fight this if you get right on it!
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Swallowing difficulties could be at the route of her problems it can cause all the symptoms you are describing.
An urgent visit to her Dr is in order before you start thinking of funeral arrangements.
Make a list of all medical conditions past and present and an out line of family history, include any surgeries and approximate dates.
Have Dad keep a food diary for a few days so the Dr can see exactly what she is able to eat. He will also need to know if she has diarrhea or constipation and if there is any rectal bleeding (fresh blood or black tarry stools) Also a list of medications and any OTC supplements and herbals. This is very serious and she will probably need a lot of investigations to figure out exactly is wrong with her. 77 is not old these days so don't be put off with the "It's her age" answer. Once you have a diagnosis you Mom and dad can decide on what treatment if any she wants or can tolerate. Keep us in the loop everyone's experiences are helpful to others.
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