My mother-in-law was recently discharged from the hospital with a leg ulcer and is receiving 24 hr. home care. My father-in-law is finding fault with the care and wants it discontinued which is behavior he exhibits in most situations, wanting to control things and looking at his needs first; not wanting people around. She does not want to go to a nursing facility and puts his needs above hers, often suffering. We've offered that she come live with us, but she's afraid of his response and says no. We do not have power of attorney to meet her needs due to his not allowing her to. Any suggestions?