After researching and visiting a number of assisted living communities, I felt this one suited her best. There are only 65 residents, 1/3 are men. The residents seemed to be on her level of physical and mental ability. I passed up the snazzy resort-like community since her tastes are rather simple. The residents where she now lives prefer to sit and watch without communicating. There is no ambassador. No one has stepped forward to introduce themselves. She had high hopes of finding a game partner and making a friend or two. She's not outgoing, but I give her credit for trying to make friends and going out of her way to participate in what activities they offer.
For the past 3 years she lived with my brother and sister-in-law, who begged her to let them be her paid caregivers because they needed the money. Since he is the baby boy of her three children, she happily agreed. My husband and I helped out by taking her 2 or 3 days a week without monetary compensation. Her life with them consisted of sitting in front of the TV all day, with an occasionaly dinner out. Last month they told me to find other arrangements for her.
I guess my question is: does anyone know how to get a LO settled into a new community. There must be other residents like her who need a little help connecting (how to find them?). Any suggestions would be appreciated. I don't want to be the pushy/complaining family member. I just want her to be relatively happy in her new home.