We are the closest to her. He is very deaf and has unbelievable patience from being trained in the military. But, even he is getting fed up with her sarcastic, rude, stupid comments and yelling.
I feel like her other two or three friends don't believe me. I'm going for counseling at Lifespan to help me deal with her. She's lying and she's two-faced and extremely negative about TV, people, neighbors. Everyone is wrong, except her. Her negative outlook is physically making me sick. I'm living with her temporarily as I got very sick last year with cancer, chemo, and extreme back and leg pain. I'm widowed and have an adult autistic daughter who lives down the road. She's with me every weekend and mom treats me like I'm her older sister. No respect, no boundaries, no filters. Verbal abuse is at the limit!
Now, I can't get out of here due to long wait lists on income-based apartments. I feel trapped and I'm getting really disgusted.
Ugh, I hate my life.
I think you are doing at present all you can. You have sought counseling. You understand that your Mom is mean to you for reason-reasons unknown and that it is likely not to change. You are seeking housing. You have been very proactive for yourself.
It is difficult to argue with a non-responsive partner. I would maintain privacy and distance as well as you are able and go all grey rock when Mom wants an argument. Other than that I can't imagine how for the present you can do more; I hope others have suggestions for you.
I wish you the best, and especially wellness.