My mom is 93, still lives in her condo apartment and is in relatively good health, except for arthritis aches and pains. She is legally blind and uses a walker but is quite independent and social.
I've always been her main "go to" person for grocery shopping, appointments, etc. My brother does help out occasionally. I am self-employed and I have VERY few days off each year. When I do go on vacation, it's only for two or three days at a time. Almost every time I start preparing to go away, mom starts to angst. She makes up fictitious ailments, tells me she's not feeling well, tells me she will feel alone. Meanwhile, as I said, she lives in a condo building. There are people around her all the time. The residents look out for each other AND she has more of a social life than I do, playing cards every night, going out to lunch with friends, going to church activities, etc. My brother and my husband are available to her when I'm away if she has any emergencies.
I try to not let her neediness get to me, but It's hard. Truth be told, I need a break from her, too, because she's a very impatient woman and treats me like a servant.
Just thought I'd have a little vent. Thanks for listening!