My mother was supposed to move in for a few months, as she was moving from another state and didn't have the finances to be on her own at first. It has now been close to 3 years. I have tried to get her to get a 'real' job, so that she can save some money and move into her own place, but there is always an excuse as to why she can't. She has some health issues, but nothing life-threatening. She is 67. She drives and has her own car. She is constantly telling me how lonely she is and how she feels so badly about decisions she has made in her life, but every time I suggest something for her to do, there is always a reason why it won't work. I am slowly going crazy over it. I do not want it to interfere with the relationship I have with my husband. I have such stress and anxiety over it all, I am making myself sick. My brother and his wife live 5 minutes away, but SIL doesn't want her moving in with them, nor does my mother want to move in with her. They have a larger house and no kids. We have a smaller house with 2 teen daughters. The girls are currently sharing a room because my mother has the third bedroom. All of this is eerily reminiscent of what my mother went through with her mother. When she moved in she SWORE she would not become her mother, but what she doesn't realize is that she is very much becoming like her. Every time I bring up even a hint of discussion about getting her own place, or a real job, she gets very upset and mopes for days. I just don't know how to handle it anymore.