My Mother lies, acts out and keeps answering questions same over again. Is this dementia?

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My mother ask strangers for rides to the bank and they take her. She accuses them of taking things out of her bags and accuses the nurse of putting the pills wrong in her medicine box. She's telling lies bout she do things for us me and my husband take her to grocery store rummage sales and help her with filling out paper work for her food stamps medical and her lease. I do the paper work when she go shopping she rather stay outside and smoke her cigarettes and sit on her walker and we shop for the things she wants not what she needs she weigh100 pounds smoke 1 pack of cigarettes a day Dr transfered her to go to someone else she's very difficult and mean snatch papers from her manager in her building whgen they want to come for maintence tell people lies bout house keepers us nurses in the hospital at one time she hit a nurse while in the hospital and had to restrain her I'm her poa and she needs to be in assisted living she trust people to take her and give people money just this month she took$500.00 out the bank idk what going on don't know who took her idk what to do she's not safe dr dianose her with demetia she don't want to go cause they take her money and she's not concern about her heath mean and nasty to everybody and lie bout people stealing from her and she don't take her meds and eat sweets and coffee and smoke 1 packs a cig everyday sometimes2 packs a day 76 years old take 20 medical pills idk wats wrong

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PS, make sure to take her bank card, checks, and things like that away from her if she is doing things that will damage her bank account. It helps if she's in a place where money is not necessary to have - like assisted living.

My mom would not give up her purse, so I made color copies of her state ID to put in her wallet and let her have about $5 in cash and quarters. If it disappeared, no big deal.
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I know exactly what's wrong - her brain is decaying. That's what Alzheimers does. It makes permanent holes in the brain. Being paranoid, mean, distrustful, and hostile are pretty typical. The brain wastes away, and they can start acting "crazy". It will never get better. It only gets worse.

My mother went through that and it got better by moving her into a dementia care place and medication. I could not allow her to be in our home with our kids. They were terrified of her, and it was really damaging our marriage.

She is so much calmer now. The doctor there took her off a lot of pills she was taking (19 kinds!). I think she's down to 5-6 pills now. She is on a schedule that's the same every day. They do her laundry. They make her meals and help her eat, change, bathe, and go from room to room in that unit.

What you need to do is tour some places and make arrangements for mom. You're going to have to tell her what's going to happen and when.
If you are POA, you can sign checks and paperwork for her. This is how I got my mom moved out. I found a place she could afford, signed her up, and then brought her in. She ate lunch in the dining room and could pick the apartment she wanted. That was the one and only choice she got to make!

You can do this.
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Is she living with you or on her own? Sounds like she needs to be in assited living for the good of both of you. I would do what ever it takes to make that happen. Dementia does not get better, it only goes downhill from here. She may b*tch and sqeal but make it happen.
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