My mother has not been diagnosed with dementia but I strongly feels that she has it. The reason is because of her paranoid behavior, way too much, she is delusional, fixed into her own thoughts and thinks she hears things and she is so mean and complains a lot. She is now in a wheel chair, and added incontinence. She is in complete denial about it all and is hard to work with. I got thrown in this position even though we have a very strained relationship, so not healthy for me. There is 1 other sibling, my brother. He is not always helping, her brothers and sisters are clueless and not helping either. I don't mind doing what I can but because of my unresolved issue with her and plus she is negative, she wets her floor but hides it, she goes in her garage and urinates and expect for me to clean. She is ready to talk about crazy things like demons, witches, rogues, pornography just name it, and non of those topics I'm interested in. She repeats it like a tape recorder over and over and she throws insult at me, and I'm helping her. I'm stressed. I have to haul her around to doctors appointment, wheelchair is damaging my back, and I feel like I'm driving Ms Daisy. I found out that she has life insurance on me with her as beneficiary and not my kids and I'm upset about that. I know nothing about her personal stuff like life insurance in case of death because she don't trust me, but like wise. I have a husband a 2 teens and I am wanting to focus on them, but there is my mom too, I help because nobody else is helping. No one understands that my mother is toxic to me and I can't do it all, advise.