Not sure what we can do about my mom. She is living in a senior's place that provides meals and light housekeeping and has been there approximately 3 years. About 8 months ago she was sick and ended up in the hospital. I think she really liked the care she received and a couple of weeks after discharge she was back. This has been a back and forth thing ever since. She won't take her medication and inevitably has to go back almost immediately. Three weeks ago I received a message she wasn't feeling well and took her to the hospital again. They took her in immediately as her heart rate was 170. This was the 7th time in under a year. I told her I would not take her again but would call an ambulance and meet her at the hospital as I am not equipped nor do I have the knowledge to know what to do if she has a stroke along the way (I had asked my doctor what could happen with a heart rate that high and she said my mom is lucky she did not have a massive stroke). I'm really not sure what to do. She gets furious with us if we bring up her medication and says if she doesn't want to take it she doesn't have to and it is none of our business. I received a call earlier today (she was just released from the hospital a week and a half ago) that she is not feeling well again, can't sleep, eat, etc. It is really cold here and my car battery is dead so I can't go anyway and suggested she call an ambulance, or I could. This is really becoming overwhelming. This is literally a life and death thing that is dealt with almost bi-weekly. Today will be her 8th time going to the hospital. She is a hoarder and suffers from depression and dealing with this personality has always been a challenge. I don't think she fully understands the potential consequences of her actions. I want to set some boundaries so she knows if she does not take her medication that is her choice, and she will have to call an ambulance, that I won't go anymore (she phones me because she wants to go to a particular hospital the ambulance won't take her because it is out of our area) but then I feel I am being mean and if she does die I am afraid of the guilt. I feel terrible no matter what I do.