She is very withdrawn and is afraid to leave her apartment. My husband (my dad) is also afraid to leave the apartment because he gets 'lost'. They constantly bicker and quarrel all day. My sister said once that she didn't think that either one could even comment on the weather without starting an argument. I would visit more often (out of state travel involved) but the atmosphere is very hostile.
We've tried 'books-on-tape', CDs and headset radios, but she manages to break the players pretty quickly or "they're just too complicated!". We've tried to get her to join a group of women suffering from the same affliction, but she's too afraid, and I think too proud. She is embarrassed to even go to the common dining room because she spills food on herself and thinks everyone is looking at her. We've told her that that isn't true and that many other people have the same problem, but she won't listen.
Mom is now mad at God for taking her eyesight. Church has been important to her in the past, but now she won't even consider it, even if my sister takes her and stays with her for the entire service. I've tried to tell her that she was never guaranteed a life without trials and troubles, but she just verbally attacks me if I suggest that she pray for guidance. I told her that back when I got cancer and prayed fervently "Oh GOD! Why ME, your good and faithful servant?" and got the answer in an almost audible voice "Why NOT you? If someone else got this disease they might not be able to handle it. You can, with my help." Mom's response? "Well, that was you, not me!"
I believe that my mother is depressed and that the only thing that she can do now-a-days is to argue and fight. She has been to therapy (only at my sister's insistence) but now refuses to go "because it's too expensive". She won't even consider mood-altering drugs. Heck, she'd rather die than even drink a beer (literally)! I suggested that once when she was dehydrated and that was her response. Medical marijuana is legal in her state (Washington), but if she won't even drink a beer how do I suggest that she might consider "dope"?
My sister and I don't know what to do other than just love her and pray for her, but that just doesn't seem to be enough when mom is obviously suffering. Any other suggestions would be appreciated. Love and Light to all.