She is 85. She used to be a very caring parent. She wants me to take her to a doctor that has already told her he will not operate. She has coerced my brother and his wife to side with her on this, and my mother demands that I take her(I have medical training) and coerce this man into doing surgery on her (whether it is necessary or not) I told her no. She will not let me call the doctor's office, either. She forbade me from calling. I am having the same feelings towards my mother that another person wrote.... wishing she had died instead of my father four years ago. He was always very caring towards me, my husband and my family. She has begun verbally abusing me since my father died four years ago. She is not always this way, but when she is, it is her way or the highway We are currently not speaking. I was the last of the four children to leave home and marry. She does not treat my siblings this way. Please help me, and give me some assistance in how to handle this. She is in apparently good health and will probably be around a long time. My family is considering moving to Maine or to Nova Scotia due to my asthma and also now due to my mother. We went on a six week trip around the country this summer, and she constantly was telling us o come home before something bad happened to us.