81-year-old mother-in-law is very forgetful and can't remember conversations from 5 minutes ago. What is our next step?

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But she does remember the past and she does remember to take her pills so far and she remembers some things but it scared to drive, scared to fly somewhere by herself, but will if necessary. we live with her and she wants us to move out she wants to live alone but we're scared to leave her we don't know what the next thing is going to be and we don't want her to be alone to learn what it is. She had a doctor's appointment where they gave her a memory test and she did well on the test but those people don't live with her, they don't see her day today and the things that happened and the confusion that she's living in. We just need to know what we can do to help her what's the next step? What doctor can we get that will help us because her MD just coated it over with this test my husband talked to him and he didn't seem concerned at all yet we live with her and we see how it is.

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I have had a neurologist and primary care doctor telling me that
my dad is fine. He repeats the same question every 3-5 minutes starting from 3:00 pm until 7:00 when I feed him and put him to
bed. They don't have a clue!
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Your first obligation is to your MIL. If you no longer trust her doctor, that's a big stumbling block. If it should happen that Mom is showing signs of dementia, it won't get better, only worse.

I can understand her wanting to live alone. Most likely, it has nothing to do with you or your care of her. She's just gotten to the point where she wants to live alone, and I can totally understand that. However, she cannot go completely uncared for or unobserved. Agree to move out, especially if it is her home start looking for a place for yourselves, close-by but not within yelling distance of Mom's house. Convince her to have a home health aid come in a few times a week to "help" her out. You and/or hubby can stop by once a week or so. Make sure your contact numbers are posted around her house. But first, have her evaluated by a geriatric physician.
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