She needs help but refuses. She is continuing to show signs of self-neglect. she is very contentious and argues and refuses to seek medical attention. She complains about not feeling well, but as soon as you mention the "D" word she gets mad and hates you forever! It's very difficult listening to her whining and complaining about everything, but does not want help. I have been told to keep my mouth shut, and since everyone else is in denial, the only thing I can think of doing at this point, is calling social services and get her some help - if they can! I don't know what options we have. When we went to her house today, she was a mess!