HELP! I am a caregiver for my MIL, she just turned 85 but has always been a woman who has been spoiled to the point where she never did much of anything herself. When I ask her to change her pull-up, her standard answer is; "I don't need to, I am dry". She will go all day without changing, she will change before she goes to bed. Now she doesn't want to wash her hands before we eat, she says that's not her way, I told her it's our way and if she doesn't want to wash, than she doesn't touch any of the food when we all are eating at the table. I just don't know what to do anymore. My children don't want to come over to dinner because they see her with her finger up her nose all the time they are here visiting.