In recent weeks her two other children have come to visit her for a few hours each. These are the children who rarely call and their visits are even rarer. They have done nothing at all to aid in her care for the last 9 years.
My husbands mother made out a short 'will' a few years back saying that my hubby gets her 'worldly possessions' after she is gone. Problem is - all the family heirlooms are now gone. We didn't even notice until recently.
She didn't have much since her parents lost most of their possessions to fire and floods. But there were a few items like her sisters Blue Willow dinnerware, some 'ruby' glasses and some antique dishes and 3 gold pocket watches belonging to my husbands grandfather and uncles. Also about $20 face value in Silver Dollars dating from 1800's to about 1920.
All of these things are now gone. She has given us nothing in the way of dishes or family mementos.
One of her granddaughters (who has never - and i do mean NEVER - called, written or visited her before) came along and for this token visit she received the set of Blue Willow dinnerware. I just sat there stunned while they packed it all up and left.
We are hurt by this - not so much for the value - because other than the gold pockets watches that probably were valuable - it was mostly sentimental value. But now it's all gone. Her china closet is basically empty.
It may not even have been her children who got the rest. She gets visitors from church, etc. Maybe she gave things to them? I know she did this a couple years ago when some friends stopped in.
IS THIS NORMAL? Of course, it matters very little now. But we are wondering if my hubby should mention this to his mother or DOCUMENT that the things are gone and that SHE disposed of them and not us?
This just seems par for the course I guess.