jeannegibbs, thank you for your ideas. I will try that. What would you do when she brings up things that are in the recent past... 2 years...and gets angry and says that "no one told me that! Everyone tries to keep me in the dark!!" and I have to spend another hour reminding her of the thing that she has forgotten. I'm worn out. And about once a month she will ask why she has to take all her meds... I have to spend another hour explaining each pill to her. her doctor told her and me that I need to have the meds and dispense them but she won't let me.. she throws a fit. I need to learn to go ahead and DO these things without feeling guilty or upset about it. How do I do that?