We thought moving my mother in law in with us would help her out but it's been a challenge for us and a strain in our marriage. My mother in law promised to quit smoking in order to move in and improve her health, and because I have severe allergies, but she still smokes 14 month later! She helps as much as she can like laundry, but she is not clean. She showers every other day or two days and as a smoker she should shower nightly. We have noticed that she follows my husband like a lost puppy. In fact my husband cannot even turn around without her bumping into him and he can't seem to have a moment alone without her being right up under him. Is there something more going on with her that we are not seeing? Should we talk with her doctor about this. So far her doctor says her mind is good, but I'm starting to question things like the following bit. My husband has tried asking her to give him some space, but the next day when he gets home the following starts all over! We are just not quite sure what to do, and it's driving my husband crazy. Other than with us and my family, she has no social life. We have tried to get her to stay with family that wants her to visit but she hasn't done this yet. I think her eye sight is worse than she let's on some days. She did have to give up driving July 2014, and she just doesn't go far because I think she's afraid something may happen to us or she's out of her comfort zone because of her eyesight. We've thought of assisted living but I don't think she would agree to that right now.