My mother-in-law will be 84 in August. A couple of years ago, my husband and I started noticing a decline in her mental faculties. Since we do not see her everyday we really notice it. Now, the kicker is this: my husband's brother (age 58) still lives at home because he is schizophrenic (diagnosed) and Mom is his legal guardian. Brother-in-law has a pilonidal abscess that is not healing because neither he or his mother isn't taking proper care of it. I don't think he should be at home anymore because she can't take care of him, but I am afraid to broach the subject with her because she feels everything is fine. I believe she realizes that things are not right with her and I am sure she is afraid of loosing control. My husband and I are not physically able to take care of either of them and father-in-law is physically disabled. We don't know what to do. Advice would be appreciated.