My husbands mother just moved in. She's mentally great however she's diabetic, sever arthritis and high BP. This woman( who's now on POA and bank accounts) could care less about her health and has my mother in law on an allowance. She claims it's because we want to steal her money. I don't want her money I just want her to pay her expenses, which she can and slightly does. My husband feels hurt, feels they are sneaky ( they are) and now want his mother out of our home. If this happens she will just pass away from mixing her medication up, not eating right, not cleaning herself or cleaning her home. Please help. I don't know how to defuse/ help/ support both of them. Update. My husband had her sign a new POA and proxy. But she won't go to the bank. Also, we heard my mother in law on the phone with the other woman telling her how she signed a new PIA and proxy. Then she mentioned something about " well nobody knows about the thing we have going on. That's our secret". Any ideas what this could be? I think it's a trust but not sure.