She stopped cooking for herself months ago, uses walker, and lives on second floor, so she crawls up the stairs. Tried three years ago to get her into senior citizen high rise, she refused, it was a done deal. Her two sons are incapable of taking care of her for they have their own medical issues they are dealing with also the homes are two stories and would need constant help. I know she is nursing home medically eligible, for I worked in that field for 34 years. How do I go about handling this sticky situation. She is nasty and uncooperative and we live two states away.