My mother and I live in separate states. She lives alone in a home that is much too big. She works only 2 days a week, and clearly has shown questionable understanding of her finances (ie. she refused to apply for her or my deceased father's SS, no has she registered for Medicare). She's been a drinker for the past few years and has driven off most of her friends, and has cut off communication with her parents. I've gently been bringing up the issue of the house being in disarray and not maintained to her and trying to get her to think about downsizing either her town or move to near us, only to be literally yelled at and hung up on. I want her to be safe and happy (though I really don't think she knows how to be happy anymore). I've talked the situation over with a lawyer and he says it's her choice to be an unresponsible adult. Then comes this past weekend... I find out from a coworker that she was in the ER uncontrollably vomiting and shaking. The ER wanted to admit her, but she walked out and went home. Her coworker asked if she is possibly drinking (which is the understatement of the century!). Any advice on legal avenues to explore would be great.