I have been living far from my mother since before I became an adult on my own. Many people would not understand the idea of being the parent instead of the child but some would. I have lived away and independently without a dime of help. I call and have visited her only a few times over the last 12 years. I can't say that are relationship is awful or that I hate her or that she hates me. She just has never helped herself, she is a recovering drug addict and alcoholic and she has worked the same job since I was a teen. Her work cut her benefits six years back and her wages. She has been living in a hotel for more than 8 years because my older brother (whom hasn't spoken to in 10 years) got sick of her money habits. Since we were kids she frivolously spent her money and then got depressed when it was gone.
She is now in a situation where she is getting evicted because she was in the hospital and cannot pay her bills or even go to work because she has been sick. I found this out the night of. I am unemployed and a student, I live in a different state and cannot do anything for her. My older brother will not get back to me. I have given her numbers for assistance and have tried to tell her that she needs to do more and go to work even if she feels ill or go to thick, or get disability. She is turning 64 she has barely any so coming her way and when I tried to get her on Medicare she didn't bother. I don’t know what to do. She has no one and the shelters are filled to the rim where she lives. In a couple months the temperature is going to drop and she’ll freeze. I don’t know what to do and how to cope with this. She has no one but me.