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Does my Mother have to live with me for me to be paid as her primary caregiver?

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Jeanne, I have never seen you post this information. To be more helpful to askers, why not share your family's experience. How many hours a day? How much money? I don't know why I've never seen that answer -- and why no one has called me on it before now??

Mea Culpa.
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Maggie, I don't know how you can keep saying you've never heard of that, when I post our experiences all the time! Or do you just mean no one who know in person?

Anyway, there are programs that do pay for in-home help for elders with care needs, and in more and more states the person being paid can be a relative. But first your mother would have to qualify for whatever state program offers these services. Generally it is under the auspices of Medicaid. After qualifying for the program, Mother would be assessed to determine her level of need. If she is awarded 28 hours of caregiving a week, plus 4 hours of housekeeping, and 2 hours of a visiting nurse (for example), you might be able to be paid for the caregiving and housekeeping, but not the nursing. You may in fact be putting in more hours than that, but that is what you would be paid for.

It is much less expensive to keep an elder in her own home by providing some in-home care, than to pay for a nursing home, so more and more states are offering programs like this.

Minnesota was one of the early adopters of this approach, and our family has personal experience with it. The way it works here is the county tells one of the agencies they work with that so-and-so has a placement with their parent. So-and-so goes to the agency, gets whatever training they offer, and signs up. The payment is through that agency who takes care of all withholding and tax issues.

My brother has done housekeeping for our mother in two different counties, and has been paid in this way. My sister got paid for caregiving in this manner also.

Be aware that if a person truly needs 24-hour-a-day supervision and care, it is safest and more cost-effective to place the person in a care center, so these programs do not cover 24 hours a day of at-home care.
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If your mom is paying you, you can work out any arrangement that suits you both. If there is a chance mom will need Medicaid some time in the future, her paying you has to be part of a contract for personal care. Without that, Medicaid will look at any money mom pays you as a gift. They will disallow her benefits until the gift is paid back. This is VERY important.

If you are thinking of the gvmt paying you, I think you will be disappointed. I've never read about anyone bring paid from such a program...although the question has been asked many times.

Someone suggested you might get a job with a personal care COMPANY and thus get paid an hourly rate to care for your mom. Never heard of anyone doing that though. Would assume you would need some specialized training to be hired.
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