I only learned a few months ago that she had a rectal prolapse after she started accepting assistance while using the bathroom. I thought it was a new condition so I took her to the doctor. But a family member just told me she had it for at least a decade and probably much longer. For whatever reason, my mother decided not to have it fixed.
It is not causing her pain. But the problem is it makes her think she has to have a bowel movement so she is in the bathroom all the time. She also doesn't have the sense to leave it alone so she is irritating it by constantly wiping it.
A colorectal surgeon has recommended surgery. He says that "down the road" it might become a problem. She might end up in the emergency room and need a colostomy bag.
First, the surgeon was talking about surgery requiring general anesthesia and her being in the hospital for a few days. I expressed concern this would affect her mental functioning negatively. Then he said he could do a smaller procedure which would involve local sedation and at least an overnight stay. Before either procedure, she would require a separate visit for a colonoscopy.
My mom's neurologist has been classifying her dementia as advanced for at least the past 18 months. Physically, she is in good condition. No significant health problems other than blood pressure which is under control. Her weight is good.
Mentally, her condition has declined steadily since her diagnosis. Recently, she has started getting up in the middle of the night, and once tried to leave the house. After months of overeating, we now have to encourage her to eat because she says there is too much food on the plate and she feels full. She needs assistance with bathing and is frequently refusing to shower. Sometimes, she now puts her clothes on in the wrong order. She doesn't know her way around the house she has lived in for over 40 years. She is unable to state her age or how many children she has. She does know when she needs to use the bathroom. She has a history of falling but hasn't fallen in over a year.
Currently, her condition is manageable. She lives at home with full-time assistance. I'm concerned that these procedures are going to totally throw her off course. I will be going back to the surgeon to further discuss potential treatment options.
The surgeon mentioned that if my Mom was 85 and had cancer he wouldn't do the procedure. I'm just struggling with whether to try to treat it or leave it alone.
Just wondering if anybody has experience with this type of situation.