I have never been particularly close to my mother but have been staying with her, I'm 53 and it's wearing me down. My older sister who has medical power of attorney acts like she could care less. My mother doesn't want medication so she hasn't been seen for dementia nor is she on medication which she really needs. Meanwhile she's #1 a hoarder and has fallen a few times (which is why I'm there). I do a lot for my mother, but I'm always the bad guy even though my sister hardly even calls her much less comes by. My mother gosspis about me terribly and lies a lot -- Says I'm the reason her house looks the way it does, she curses at me (I'm talking the F word), won't do anything but sit and watch crap tv (Maury, Jerry Springer, Steve Wilkos) and then want to discuss sexually perverted topics (and has a tone in voice like she gets off on it which makes me sick) like incest, pedophiles, rape of young children. She calls me all day repeating the same thing over and over, and I have no privacy. My hair is falling out, I'm sick a lot-- and I feel like I'm doing this alone while my sister travels and hardly calls my mother.