I have known my mother has had memory issues for over a decade. I finally got P.OA. In January, she finally was diagnosed with dementia. My situation is quite a rare one. My mother lives with my brother who has had agoraphobia for 30 years and also has some form of schizophrenia that makes him very angry. For at least 10 years he has stolen her medicine, her petty cash, and eats her meals on wheels. I have called the police many times but she will never admit any of this to anyone. He is pushing 50 and she is 80. He screams at her and did I mention he doesn't lift a finger to help her. Her house is almost hoarding like, very cluttered and smells etc.... I cannot care for her due to my autoimmune disease and other health problems. But, I visit her twice a week and take her anywhere she needs, so she doesn't drive. I do as much as possible but she lives a couple of hours away and the gas money alone is sucking me dry. I have contacted everyone you can think, Adult protection society, and social workers. But she won't complain about my brother and they cannot get in the house or reach her because my brother locks the doors and turns of the phone ringers. I have begged her to go into assisted living for her own sanity, she also has severe mobility issues, plus her mild dementia. Because her house is so cluttered, no one can really do much to help. Every day she gets more emotional but she has chosen this life. She will do anything to protect my brother. I take care of all her finances and do so much, I am becoming more ill by the day and I was told I could go to jail, since this on my part is a form of neglect. I am terrified of being in trouble for not helping my mother enough. She doesn't qualify for Medicaid or any other programs because she has a renter, she is very protective of him and he just takes advantage of her kindness. I do not know what to do. I feel so helpless. She didn't apply for tax exemption and we owe them 25,000 in back taxes, which legal aid couldn't get us out of. The house she lives in is in a trust, which also complicates things even more. What do I do? I have been feeling so alone.