I need advice. My 99 (almost 100) year old mom is frustrated because she feels that she is losing control of everything (and she is!). She pretty much has all of her faculties, although she's slipping now here and there. I know she's frustrated and feels marginalized and I try very hard to give her what she needs and wants -- I plan activities for her to do alone, things we can do together. I've told her she can help me with housework, cooking, etc. (she doesn't want to do that! :-)). I do a little Doordashing on the side and when she feels up to it, we go together. I try to give her autonomy. But she is almost completely blind, almost totally deaf, and unable to ambulate well under her own power. She needs my help. Our latest struggle has been the medications. She wants to self-medicate in some areas and her doctor says no, to talk to him first. This causes huge blow ups because "I want to do what I want to do! I always did in the past! I've lost everything! I can't even handle my own physical needs without getting your approval!" Did I mention mom is also borderline personality? Your advice?